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Rule 7. Learn when to say "No".

So I admit it, I'm a "YES" woman. By that I mean I find it really hard to say no to things (excluding things like camping, water sports and super scary adrenaline activities lol it's just not for me). Which can absolutely be a good thing! I wouldn't be where I am now without saying "YES" to a number of things over the last few years of my life. I love that when I want to, I can take life by the horns and run with it! However I have learnt that not knowing how to say "No" basically ever, can sometimes put you between a rock and a hard place.


Do you know how to say "No"? Do you know how to say no to maybe that friendship that is bringing you down? Do you know how to say no to a bad relationship? Do you know how to say no to a negative workplace? Do you know how to say no to something that goes against your values and morals? Do you know how to say no to being bullied? Do you know how to say no to bad thoughts? Do you know how to say no to that drug you were offered? Do you know how to say no to that drink you know you shouldn't have had? Or do you simply say "It will be fine" or "that's ok I will get over it"?


We sometimes can get caught up in the moment and therefore we don't know how to let something go when we know it's not good for us. Even a small negative thought can bring us down, or be the tipping point for us. By saying "No" or "Enough!" is actually a really positive testament to our strength and our self worth. It takes courage to say "no". Even if that means someone may look at you a bit differently or make even make fun of you. Growing up, I have always been told to never go against your values and principles....ever. This is something that I basically live my life by now ( I will talk about this further in another post) because it is so true. If something doesn't feel right inside then maybe it is going against your values and principles and believe me, if you ignore those red flags that are waving in front of your face saying "HEYYYYYYY STOP THIS" or "THAT'S ENOUGH", then you could be letting yourself down a little.


I remember when I was younger I watched the movie "Yes Man" featuring Jim Carrey...and if you are someone that knows me, you know I am not particularly a fan of Jim Carrey ....like AT ALL (i'm sorry to all the Jim Carrey fans...but I just can't). However, the movie really made me reflect on who I was and made me realize that maybe saying yes to things, or basically not knowing when enough was enough can really be a negative, because I may not have seen the negative at the time, but it would come to bite me in the future.


Being a yes woman or a yes man is of course great! You are probably reading this and in your head counting how many amazing and fun experiences you have done because you have said yes which is so awesome! Just remember though, when it comes to the big stuff in life and I am talking about the stuff that really tests the strength of your values and principles, make sure you know when enough is enough!



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